BEAUTY BEYOND BETRAYAL - Heal from Betrayal, Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma Recovery

41. I hate the way I look! 3 steps to heal your damaged body image after betrayal.

Do you look in the mirror and think to yourself, "If I were only pretty enough maybe he wouldn't have cheated." Or maybe you think "If I were thinner, curvier, had longer hair, dressed more like 'her', my marriage wouldn't be broken right now."
Beautiful, if you've ever thought any of these, you are probably suffering from body image crisis. 
96% of women who have been cheated on say they look at themselves differently, they have body image issues. 
Well, I have 3 steps you can start taking TODAY to move you into healing your damaged body image. 
Grab your pen and paper - these are really good!
It's time to see YOU as God created you to be - A Unique Beautiful Woman - fearfully and wonderfully made!
Let's go...
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40. Are forgiveness and trust the same?

When you have been betrayed, it's only normal to wish for things to go back to "normal". But it's not that simple.
As Christian women, we are told we must forgive, but when? And is it a one in done deal? Does that also mean that we automatically trust him again? 
There is so much being said on social media regarding Forgiveness and Trust so I wanted to address it from a biblical perspective. 
In today's episode, I tell you the difference between forgiveness and trust. We also discuss the guidelines God has given us for moving forward in relationships. And we come face-to-face with the only One we can fully trust with our broken heart.
I hope this helps and blesses you Beautiful!
 

39. How to trust yourself again.

Have you lost all trust in yourself since you found out about your husband's affair? It's not unusual to doubt yourself and your decision making when trauma has hit.
In today's flash friday episode, I give you a few tactical ways to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal. 
Grab your pen and paper Beautiful, this is a good one. And make sure to implement these this weekend!
I hope this blesses you!

38. 3 things to do BEFORE you confront him about his affair

It's devastating, confusing, overwhelming, debilitating, and the anger is out of control when you find out about his affair. You just want to project all the rage, frustration, and pain upon him. But there are 3 things that you should do BEFORE you confront him about his affair. 
I know EXACTLY where you are Beautiful. I've been there. I remember D-Day like it was yesterday. It's a defining moment. One you NEVER forget. And with it comes all the emotions at once - it leaves you bewildered.
It can be so easy to want to rush in and confront him with all the information you now have at your fingertips. But stepping on the breaks long enough to get yourself to a place where you can confront him in a safer way is the key. 
In today's episode, I share with you 3 things to do BEFORE you confront him and it will help put you in a better, safer place so you can face the situation more equipped.
I pray this blesses you Beautiful!
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37. What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma - Part 2

This is Part 2 of our series "What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma". We explore the last 4 stages in this episode. I also give you tactical tools to help you release some of the trauma responses so you don't get stuck and can continue to move through your healing journey. 
Grief is a normal response when you have been betrayed and when you realize how to embrace it and move through it, you can get to your desired recovery a little quicker. 
Take some time to really digest today's episode. This is for YOU, Beautiful!
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Thank you for listening and I pray this blesses you today!
XOXO Lisa

36. What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma -part 1

When you discover that your husband has betrayed you through a sexual affair, the discovery can be devastating. It rocks your world to the core. It shatters your very reality and can leave you in a state of grief.
The pain and loss is unbearable and you begin to wonder if you will survive through it. You question everything and everyone. 
This is a part of the grieving process when you have suffered great loss. Yes Beautiful, you are suffering loss in betrayal.
Loss of trust in your relationship
Loss of trust in yourself
Loss of trust in your partner
Loss of the future you have dreamed of
Loss of your identity, your sense of self
These losses are great and you do go through a grief process, even if you don't realize it.
Today episode is part 1 of a 2 part series on the Stages of Grief in Betrayal Trauma. 
I walk you through the 7 stages along with how to know if you are currently in one of the stages as well as how to NOT get stuck. 
It's important to move through the stages so you can heal and recover from the trauma the betrayal has inflicted upon you.
Grab your pen and paper beautiful, get someplace where you can focus on you for a short time, and dive in with me so we can work you through the stages of grief.
Episode 31: What are somatic techniques...
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35. How to change your words in order to change your circumstances

Today is 'FLASH FRIDAY with Lisa". On Friday's I bring you quick "how to's" that will change what you are struggling with into a better outcome. 
A HUGE shout out to Cyndi McLaughlin for coming up with our Friday episode "title". THANK YOU BEAUTIFUL!
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What you speak over your life and circumstances really does matter. 
The Bible plainly states that in the tongue is the power of life or death. So the words you speak are seeds that produce a harvest - be it negative or positive.
After betrayal, we find ourselves speaking negatively about most everything because we are deeply wounded. But if we make the decision to change the words that are coming out of our mouth, we can change the atmosphere around us and create a better outcome.
In today's episode, I give you tactical tips on how to make the necessary changes that will produce a better harvest for your life.
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34. Why you need to allow the negative emotions

Negative emotions, especially around betrayal, can seem to heavy, so burdensome, so overwhelming that we feel like if we allow ourselves to feel them, we won't survive them.
This is quite the opposite. Negative emotions, when embraced and faced properly, can be a tool for our growth. 
God never meant for these emotions to keep you stuck or trapped. He wants to use them to grow you into a stronger YOU!
Listen in and learn how facing and embracing the negative emotions caused by betrayal can actually bring you through the dark night of your soul, into the joy that comes in the morning.
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33. How to regain confidence after betrayal trauma

Has his betrayal caused you to lose all confidence in yourself?
Do you doubt your worth? Are you questioning everything you think and do? And, do you find it hard to even hold your head high anymore?
Well beautiful, it sounds like your confidence has been kicked to the curb.
This is part 1 of a 2 part series on "How to regain your confidence after betrayal trauma".
And, I am really excited to be bringing you tactical tips on Fridays to help you in your healing journey. So, we are running a little contest to add a "cute" name to our Friday show. Get your thinking caps on and send your suggestions to: lisa@lisalimehouse.com
Deadline for entrees is Thursday, August 11th. I will pick the winner on Friday, August 12th and you will receive a beautiful "Beauty from Ashes" t-shirt!  Get your entries in TODAY!
One more thing...
Make sure to get in to the 5 Day Beauty Beyond Betrayal Workshop that begins August 15th! This is a FREE workshop, my gift to you, and we will be exploring:
The 5 seasons of betrayal
Safe People
Where to begin your healing journey
Somatic Techniques
And more
You won't want to miss this beautiful! I know it will equip you for recovery.
I can't wait to see you in the workshop. 
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32. Where does true change begin after betrayal?

“I want my life to change but I don’t know where to begin."
“The betrayal has turned my world upside down and inside out. I feel like I don’t know who I am anymore.”
"My thoughts are all over the place. I don’t know what I believe anymore.”
“And my actions are chaotic.”
 
Where does true change begin after betrayal?
When you begin to think about rediscovering who you are after betrayal, maybe redesigning your life even, you might start by thinking “what if I change my hair color, my contacts, makeup look younger, change the way I dress things will be better. But all of this is about the outside - the outward appearance.
What about the things that are going on deep down inside?
Beautiful, if things are to change in your life for the better, it first needs to begin with the inside.
 
In today’s episode, I share how our thoughts create the belief system that fuels our actions that lead to results - be is positive or negative. I also share how we can truly begin to change our lives for the better, and you can start TODAY!
Enjoy!
 
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