BEAUTY BEYOND BETRAYAL - Heal from Betrayal, Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma Recovery

45. How do I stop being so insecure since being cheated on? 3 ways to overcome the insecurity monster.

Like an earthquake that destroys the foundations of buildings, betrayal destroys our self confidence leaving us with a monster of insecurities.
I remember thinking I wasn't good enough, pretty enough, too fat, too many wrinkles, getting older, etc. All these insecurities led me to believe the lies of unworthiness and hopelessness. This led to self doubt and it crushed my confidence. 
I know EXACTLY how you feel!
Why do we have all these insecurities and how do we heal from them?
Today, I'm going to give you 4 questions to ask yourself to see what your insecurities are, how they make you feel, think, and believe. Then, I'll share how to overcome the insecurity monster so you can rise up confidently as the woman God created you to be.
It's time to slay the insecurity monster Beautiful! Let's do this!
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44. I cringe every time I hear her name! How to tame the triggers of words and names after betrayal.

Do you cringe every time you hear her name? Does a certain word or phrase cause you to shutter, feel sick, or cause your anxiety to go through the roof? Are you emotionally flooded since you discovered his affair?
I completely understand. I too was so triggered every time I heard her name spoken. So much so that I couldn't even watch one of my all time favorite TV shows just because one of the characters had her name. Talk about being controlled by betrayal trauma!
How can we move through the pain, emotional upheaval, and anxiety caused by certain words? How can we tame the triggers caused by betrayal?
In today's episode, I give you 3 things you can do TODAY to move through the pain and begin to tame the triggers once and for all so they no longer derail your life.
I hope you enjoy!
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43. I don’t know if I will EVER trust him again! 4 signs he just might be trustworthy.

Do you ever wonder if you will EVER trust him again? I mean, he did have an affair. Should you even begin to let down your guard and trust a little? 
If you are struggling with trust, struggling with the thought of if you ever can, or how to know if he is worthy of being trusted again, this episode is for you Beautiful!
I'm sharing 4 signs to look for that will help you decide if you can even begin trusting him again. Even if it's just little by little. I even throw in a few RED FLAGS to look for when evaluating his actions. I hope this helps and blesses you Beautiful!
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42. I’m afraid to set boundaries! 3 ways you hurt yourself when you DON’T set boundaries after betrayal.

Are you afraid to set boundaries because you fear your husband won't honor them or will get angry and leave the relationship? Do you think, "Why bother. It's not gonna change anything."?
Beautiful, boundaries are not meant to control others and "fence" in the relationship. Boundaries are actually healthy and necessary for your recovery.
In today's episode, I share 3 ways you actually hurt yourself when you DON'T set boundaries after betrayal. 
Come and listen and be ready to make some changes to help you rise in confidence and regain control of your life.
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41. I hate the way I look! 3 steps to heal your damaged body image after betrayal.

Do you look in the mirror and think to yourself, "If I were only pretty enough maybe he wouldn't have cheated." Or maybe you think "If I were thinner, curvier, had longer hair, dressed more like 'her', my marriage wouldn't be broken right now."
Beautiful, if you've ever thought any of these, you are probably suffering from body image crisis. 
96% of women who have been cheated on say they look at themselves differently, they have body image issues. 
Well, I have 3 steps you can start taking TODAY to move you into healing your damaged body image. 
Grab your pen and paper - these are really good!
It's time to see YOU as God created you to be - A Unique Beautiful Woman - fearfully and wonderfully made!
Let's go...
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40. Are forgiveness and trust the same?

When you have been betrayed, it's only normal to wish for things to go back to "normal". But it's not that simple.
As Christian women, we are told we must forgive, but when? And is it a one in done deal? Does that also mean that we automatically trust him again? 
There is so much being said on social media regarding Forgiveness and Trust so I wanted to address it from a biblical perspective. 
In today's episode, I tell you the difference between forgiveness and trust. We also discuss the guidelines God has given us for moving forward in relationships. And we come face-to-face with the only One we can fully trust with our broken heart.
I hope this helps and blesses you Beautiful!
 

39. How to trust yourself again.

Have you lost all trust in yourself since you found out about your husband's affair? It's not unusual to doubt yourself and your decision making when trauma has hit.
In today's flash friday episode, I give you a few tactical ways to rebuild trust in yourself after betrayal. 
Grab your pen and paper Beautiful, this is a good one. And make sure to implement these this weekend!
I hope this blesses you!

38. 3 things to do BEFORE you confront him about his affair

It's devastating, confusing, overwhelming, debilitating, and the anger is out of control when you find out about his affair. You just want to project all the rage, frustration, and pain upon him. But there are 3 things that you should do BEFORE you confront him about his affair. 
I know EXACTLY where you are Beautiful. I've been there. I remember D-Day like it was yesterday. It's a defining moment. One you NEVER forget. And with it comes all the emotions at once - it leaves you bewildered.
It can be so easy to want to rush in and confront him with all the information you now have at your fingertips. But stepping on the breaks long enough to get yourself to a place where you can confront him in a safer way is the key. 
In today's episode, I share with you 3 things to do BEFORE you confront him and it will help put you in a better, safer place so you can face the situation more equipped.
I pray this blesses you Beautiful!
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37. What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma - Part 2

This is Part 2 of our series "What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma". We explore the last 4 stages in this episode. I also give you tactical tools to help you release some of the trauma responses so you don't get stuck and can continue to move through your healing journey. 
Grief is a normal response when you have been betrayed and when you realize how to embrace it and move through it, you can get to your desired recovery a little quicker. 
Take some time to really digest today's episode. This is for YOU, Beautiful!
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Thank you for listening and I pray this blesses you today!
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36. What are the stages of grief in betrayal trauma -part 1

When you discover that your husband has betrayed you through a sexual affair, the discovery can be devastating. It rocks your world to the core. It shatters your very reality and can leave you in a state of grief.
The pain and loss is unbearable and you begin to wonder if you will survive through it. You question everything and everyone. 
This is a part of the grieving process when you have suffered great loss. Yes Beautiful, you are suffering loss in betrayal.
Loss of trust in your relationship
Loss of trust in yourself
Loss of trust in your partner
Loss of the future you have dreamed of
Loss of your identity, your sense of self
These losses are great and you do go through a grief process, even if you don't realize it.
Today episode is part 1 of a 2 part series on the Stages of Grief in Betrayal Trauma. 
I walk you through the 7 stages along with how to know if you are currently in one of the stages as well as how to NOT get stuck. 
It's important to move through the stages so you can heal and recover from the trauma the betrayal has inflicted upon you.
Grab your pen and paper beautiful, get someplace where you can focus on you for a short time, and dive in with me so we can work you through the stages of grief.
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